Losing A Forbidden Flower |top| Instant
Every human, at some point, reaches for something they shouldn't. It is part of the messy, beautiful process of learning where our personal boundaries lie. The Growth That Follows
In the wake of the loss, you aren't just left with an empty hand; you are left with the soil. You can choose to plant something new—something that can grow in the sun, something you can share with the world without fear. Losing A Forbidden Flower
The irony of the forbidden flower is that while it is beautiful, it is rarely sustainable. It thrives in the dark, but it cannot survive the light of day. Losing it is often the only way to return to a life that is integrated, honest, and sustainable. Every human, at some point, reaches for something
Just because it was hidden doesn't mean it wasn't real. Your emotions, the time invested, and the joy you felt were all valid. You can choose to plant something new—something that
Often, the survivor of this loss feels they "deserved" the pain for reaching for the forbidden fruit to begin with. This self-judgment creates a barrier to self-compassion. Tending to the Empty Space
Why was that flower so important? Often, we reach for forbidden things because they represent a part of ourselves we feel suppressed. Identifying that need can help you find a "sanctioned" way to fulfill it in the future.
When you lose something the world didn't want you to have, the mourning process is complicated by three specific factors: