My Girlfriend-s Mom Is Much Finer Than Her- So ... Today

If you want to keep your relationship intact, you have to be honest with yourself about your behavior. Are you: Finding excuses to go over to her parents' house?

Never tell your girlfriend her mom is "finer" than her. Even if you think you’re being complimentary toward her genes, it will almost certainly be interpreted as a devastating blow to her self-esteem and a betrayal of trust. 4. How to Handle the Situation So, you’re stuck in this headspace. What do you do?

If you find yourself constantly thinking, "I wish [Girlfriend] looked more like her mom," the issue might not be the mother at all. It might be that you aren’t as attracted to your girlfriend as you thought you were, and the mother is simply the closest "evidence" of what you feel you're missing. 3. The "Danger Zone" Behaviors My Girlfriend-s Mom Is Much Finer than Her- So ...

Dressing up specifically when you know the mom will be there? Comparing them out loud (even as a "compliment")?

Men often look at a partner’s mother to see how their partner might age. If the mother has aged exceptionally well, it can create a confusing "cross-wire" in the brain where you’re seeing the peak version of your partner's DNA right in front of you. If you want to keep your relationship intact,

Attraction is involuntary, but Having a "fine" mother-in-law (or future mother-in-law) is something many people deal with. It only becomes a problem if it devalues your partner in your eyes or leads to inappropriate boundaries.

If your eyes are wandering toward the mother, it usually means there is a "spark" missing in your primary relationship. Work on reigniting the chemistry with your girlfriend. Focus on the things she has that the mother doesn't —their shared history, her specific personality, and your future together. Even if you think you’re being complimentary toward

If the attraction is becoming an obsession or making you feel genuine guilt, dial back the "family time." You don’t have to go to every Sunday brunch. Create a little breathing room until the "novelty" of the mother’s appearance wears off. The Bottom Line

Accept that the mother is an attractive woman. That’s a fact. However, a "thought" is not an "action." You can recognize someone is beautiful without it becoming a lifestyle choice.